Is your marriage no longer enjoyable? Studies show that after 3 years of marriage, many couples begin to complain that their relationship has lost its novelty and is filled with boredom. And there is nothing surprising in the fact that most divorces occur just in the first 3 years of marriage.
How to overcome this crisis and prevent divorce? The answer is simple: pay attention to your wife as often as possible.
Do you remember how you felt when you were just caring for your future wife? You couldn’t wait to meet her. You called her just to find out how she was. You happily went on dates or spoiled her with knick-knacks.
Believe me, these forgotten feelings can still be returned. It is enough to remember the emotions that you experienced at the very beginning of the relationship. Relationships in marriage are very much like flames. If you don’t cherish and support it, it will go out. You do not need any exorbitant efforts for this, a small initiative is enough. There are 4 easy ways to spice up your relationship.
1. Talk about your love
Without a doubt, when you started dating your spouse, she could hear you say “I love you” a hundred times a day. Unfortunately, after several years of marriage, men tend to forget about the words of love. They are most often justified by the phrase: “I already show my wife that I love her. I work hard to provide for my family.” Of course, love can and should be reflected in actions, but a woman is so arranged that she should hear that you love her. She just needs to hear those words all the time.
When was the last time you told your wife that she looks great? This is especially important if your wife likes to dress nicely. Even if you constantly think about how seductive your wife looks, this does not justify your silence. She can’t read your mind. Tell her about it.
It will be great if, in addition to words of love, you try to express your feelings in notes or SMS. This will show your wife that you often think of her.
2. Be nice
At the very beginning of the relationship, you must have tried very hard to act like a real gentleman. You opened doors for your wife or threw your coat over your shoulders when she was cold. It helped you win her over. And most likely, you left the “chivalry” a few weeks after your marriage.
The ability to be courteous and behave like a real man should not be shown only during courtship. Courtesy and attention are equally important to your wife, both before marriage and after. Be nice to your wife every day. Open the car door, help put on your coat and don’t be late for meetings with her.
3. Give gifts
When was the last time you gave something to your wife? For no reason, just to please her? Little nice things will show her that you are always thinking about her. Find something your wife likes and present it to her. If she likes flowers, do not miss the opportunity to give a bouquet. Don’t wait until Valentine’s Day to buy her flowers. She will be ten times happier if she gets them just because you thought of her. If you see her favorite magazine in the supermarket, buy it.
The gift does not have to be something material. It could be some kind of service. Clean the house when she’s out, or give her a 20-minute massage.
A word of caution: Don’t give gifts solely for the sake of sex. Your wife is not a woman of easy virtue, so do not try to buy her. Give gifts just to please her. If she is happy, then you have succeeded. And of course, if you get sex, treat it as an added bonus to the pleasure you gave your wife.
4. Don’t Forget Dating
Most likely, before formalizing your relationship, you went out together every weekend. When was the last time you went out somewhere after you got married?
Make a date night with your wife and treat it like it’s something special. As part of your work schedule, set aside an hour a week to go out with your wife. If you have a business meeting, reschedule it. If you have children, find a nanny. If you can’t afford a babysitter, find another couple with kids and offer a “swap”. They will take your children in while you are walking, and you in turn will render them a similar service when needed.
Never cease to amaze your wife. Women love it when men arrange dates. Book a table at her favorite restaurant. Choose a date dress for her and put it on the bed. When she comes home from work, go out to her in a suit and give her a bouquet of flowers. Your wife will be very pleased.